From the blog
Notes on values, work and the people we become.
Relationships
Are we compatible? Go deeper than shared interests and hobbies
You and your partner are compatible when you want broadly the same things from life, in roughly the same order, and each of you is living enough of what you want to feel fulfilled. Shared hobbies, star signs, and quiz scores say little about what actually matters.
Relationships
Can a relationship work with different values?
Yes, most of the time. No two people share every value, and couples with different values build lasting relationships all the time. What matters is knowing which differences work, which need watching, and which ones deserve a real conversation. Whether either of you is in a hard season right now adds key context, too.
Relationships
Couples assessments, compared: how the main options work, and how to choose
The best-known couples assessments differ mainly in who runs them and what they measure. Prepare/Enrich and SYMBIS are taken through a trained facilitator, and the Gottman Relationship Checkup through a therapist. The Gottman Assessment and Values Bridge for Couples can be taken by a couple on their own. Choose the one that fits the conversation you want to have, and who you'd like to be in the room for it.
Relationships
Values in a relationship: what you share, where you differ, and what to talk about first
Values in a relationship are what each of you wants most from life, and in what order: family, money, work, where you live, faith, time together. Most couples agree that honesty and respect matter. Where they drift apart is priorities, especially the ones neither of them has said out loud.